Need ur advice guys!?

guys i know a man in 30's,professional and settled but he had a very bad experience in his recent past.his exgal frd cheated on him very badly and they used to live toghter for few yrs,and they moved to this country togther but she cheated on him in this country so now he is living all alone.on the very 1st day when we saw each other he wanted to take it further with me and i was taking very slow .but in 3rd meeting we kissed so i thought now he knows my answer';yes';to his purposal but the thing is we r not in touch very much .he never text me or call me ,its only me who text msg him every 3weeks but when we meet ,we meet like vey good frds or more than that.i don't know y he never try to keep in touch with me.AND he can't handle ';no';at all.he get mad about it. so why he is acting like that.SO GUYS it it b'coz he is involved in ex gal frd or don't want another relationship ?Need ur advice guys!?
Mani,


PLEASE RUN AWAY FROM THIS GUY. You said he gets angry when you tell him no. This is abnormal. It's a sign of someone that will eventually beat you when they become comfortable or believe they have you trapped, by marriage, kids, or fear.





This is a huge red flag. Normal guys do not do this. No matter who you are, you deserve someone better than this. I am a man. I don't need to know this guy to tell you what he is like. You have given me enough clues to know the fundamental truths about who he is, and what his character is like. You asked why he does this. He is not messed up by the ex girlfriend. Ex girlfriends do not make someone angry when they hear the word 'no' from a new girlfriend. He has emotional problems and maturity problems. He certainly has anger control problems.





For the record, if a decent guy that you've only known for 3 weeks makes a move, and you say 'no', the normal reaction is for him to say ';oh, ok. That's cool. We can move forward whenever you are ready';, and then, he will back off.





If you choose to date him, at some point, I am convinced that you will be very, very sorry. At that point, it will be too late to undo whatever damage he has done to you. If you are alive, you will look back with deep sadness and remember this yahoo question. Please consider that this is the type of behavior that you'll see in someone who is physically and mentally abusive, and you could end up in the hospital for a variety of reasons if you stay with him. If you stay long enough and think you can handle it, think about what he would do to a young child that got 'out of line'.





Please heed my advice. You do not have to date this guy - even if it makes him angry. If he threatens you or makes you feel unsafe, find some guy friends or relatives to stay around you for awhile, buy a gun, or move, or do all three. Please do not be intimidated into a relationship. If you do, you would be willingly making yourself into a victim. The way to avoid that, is to pay attention to the warning signs now.





Good luck


KevinNeed ur advice guys!?
Ok, well your question isin't very clear, but i will try to make a little sense out of it. Professional and settled, yet broken up. Girlfriend cheated on him. You wanted to take it further on your first meeting, and you think he knows that. He dosn't text or call often, yet when you do meet, he is very familiar with you. (You need to clairify the ';can't handle no'; before i can hit on that.)





Well the first thing i am going to say is he probably is not avoiding a relationship with you. The question is.. What kind of a relationship is he looking for?





If you are looking for a serious relationship with this guy, then you are probably looking at the wrong time. (unless you have known and had a friendship with him for a long time) Out of my personal experience,( and lots of friends in long relationships, my own being 5 years long) there is a peirod of a guy just being a guy, and testing the waters.





Avoid being the rebound girl, and if you like the dude, keep up the chatter between the two of you.





But always be aware, it is much easier to sleep with a person you have already slept with than to sleep with a new person.
plz do not mess up ur life
as a guy....am sorry but...i may ask this....have you had sex with him?....if you have....then thats all what he wants.....if you havent...then....thats what hes looking for......hey baby....when someone loves....trys to be with this person all the time....text her call her email her...send her flowers...or things like that......and he might be still hurt...that all he wants right now is just to have some fun....and you are the one he wants to use.....baby dont mess up your life....take it slow...and think about every step.........Not just love with your heart.....but love with your mind too.....why do you think that some girls ( in this case is cause you are asking..) get marry with a guys whos alcoholic, or use drugs....and months later they are divorcing......why?...cause they just love with their heart.....not with their minds....... your heart dont think...you are the one that thinks.....so think about your future with someone who doesnt show you how much he loves you........hope i could help with something.....byeee
hey,i think u better think carefully.u know i was living with my girlfriend for 2 years so time went thourgh i was angry what ever she does or do, i think older men have a kind of anger in them,so my advice is, he is thinking u love him so much so he dosent have to worry abaot loseing u, so love a person who loves u.
Looks like you answered your own question in your last sentence...So, be very careful, my friend...There was a song out some time ago called - ';if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with.';..I would want to know why he has not replied to your text msgs or even called you...That is rude and impolite...Communication is the most important ingredient in any relationship...And a friend does not hurt a friend...If it doesn't feel right, if it is not in your best interests, don't do it.





Good luck %26amp; all the best