I'm 22 and i never had a bf. My problem was in college all the guys i have met were immature, sleazy or morons. My problem is finding a guy worth my time. Its natural to feel shy and there is nothing to be embarrassed of. Comparing your self to 16 yr olds doest make sense. Those relationships dont last, its young love. If you want to become more comfortable around men, i suggest you make friends who males. Hangout with your female friends who will bring their brothers, bfs, male friends. You need exposure and really act normal. Behave they way you normally would around the same sex. I'm not sure if this is the reason u feel odd around men, but give it time and be your friendly self, good luckI'm 22, never had a boyfriend and I feel awkward and shy around guys. Any Advice ?
I use to be the same exact way. Then I met my current boyfriend and I eventually opened up to him and now I feel fine around him. Maybe you just need to go for it and talk to a guy. Don't think about it, just do it. I know it may be hard, but it helps. Maybe once you're with someone, you'll start to open up if the guy is willing to wait for you to break out of your shell.
The fact that you are worried about it suggests you will be dating more and more as time goes on. The more times you date the more comfortable you'll be with it, although in my opinion dating new people is always uncomfortable.
If you want to flirt, try online flirting - start with a place like match.com. As you get comfortable with that you can be more comfortable around other guys, and one of them will eventually be worth your time.
Don't compare yourself to others first of all. You're situation isn't uncommon and there is no need to work yourself up.
Try changing the activities you do to include more social events like joining classes at the gym or volunteering somewhere.
And remember don't feel the need to compromise yourself and your values just to be with a man.
well, i would get a couple of my friends
and go out, your in the prime of your life!
Go get you a man girl!!!! Its ok!
Im sure there are plenty of men willing to be patient with you and the fact that your shy....
*if you find any, let me know!
But seriously go out, get a couple drinks and relax....have a convo with someone
Just ';get out there'; and get into situations where you can meet lots of new people. Consider volunteering somewhere, joining a softball team, joining some type of organization, etc. Then hopefully it will ';click'; with somebody.
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